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It was an attention seeking ploy in hindsight to see how interested she really was or if she was really interested. This time around it wasnt a slow fade out like before. Although I do think that he could atleast try to respond. Was it because I didnt have sex with him? I will take your advice and not contact him but not every guy who pulls away is an asshole who doesnt care about you. Im questioning how accurate the last portion of this is, If youve been ghosted more than once, the reason is YOU sweetheart. What changed? Although, I guess his past relationships were a good indicator of how he has trouble being with anyone normal. We chatted for a month, he would phone me and we would talk for hours non-stopit was going great! We sometimes love you so much that we think we do not deserve you! If he disappears I agree he must not have been interested, but if he pulls back then I wouldnt generalize the reason being hes just not into you, get over it. Its like if dating were black and white like that then there wouldnt really be a dating world, people would skip over dating and jump right into relationships like back in the day. And that I wasnt, and would like to spend more time with him. And what I could do is to choose to wait for him to recover or to move on to find another man. Not as well thought out. BUT heres the thing- it seems some women i meet dont understand that whereas you can gradually get to like her more, you can also learn to like her LESS over time. i just thought it would be great experience to go out of my country and visit him. So if its not an ex its probably some personal issues that were around before you came into the picture (the job might be an indication). But my heart hurts; someone I had such rapport with clearly didnt like me enough or fight his fear or whatever to follow up. Its obvious that you cant give me what I want the same way I cant tolerate what you expect me to. The only time i find i do this is when Im not in love with the man. THEN the last line, he said I wont be able to get to the computer much to talk to you as Ill be bedridden (he uses a computer not a tablet or iphone for POF)but that caught me! Then last June he finally got up the nerve and asked me out to dinner. Sometimes youre dealt a crappy hand, despite your best efforts. This only goes to show that this guy never deserved you in the first place. On Sunday he was in a bad space and we were talking he told me he had to call me back because his ex wife is calling on the other line. be sweet to him, and act like the queen you areBe yourself, Be happy, he will come back and by then, you probably wont care because you will be busy getting it on with a nicer, more worthy guy who will call and text you and make trips just to see you( instead of the other way round) no matter how far away he lives ;) ..Love and light :), Natasha youre amazing! He replied an hour later that it definitely was a good night. It has been almost four months now since. And pleeeeeeease delete those losers from your social media websites and YOUR PHONE!!! She is self absorbed. Going down this path because something is better than nothing can actually make your heartbreak so much more intense, so bad that it causes some women depression. But then he did something annoying, deleted me on Facebook and blocked me?! Viber time stamp says that he was last online 30min after he texted me nd sknce then not online. Cause I said wait you have a darn phone and know my number!! Like he did too and I could see myself with him. It is approaching the end of this period, and Im scared. I educated my self enough to let go. Some signs that show your ex misses you include: Your ex wants to know what's going on with your life. Have you heard from him since? It is scary for us too. He dropped me off and then kissed me goodbye. I also started having feeling that he is losing interest and may be somewhere I felt stuck as I cant see anyone else and I am not sure if he is that interested. He never hid his interest in seeing me as soon as he could. After when I read your story and everyone elses on here I decided to hit my guy up and tell him the truth saying hey I miss hanging out with you he never even replied back to me but yet hes been on Facebook since that text I sent him, it hurts but gives me closure to I guess everyone here deserves someone better including me cause the guys who tend to just run away and not confront are the most cowards lessons learn. I know I wont contact him again, and Im sure he wont contact me, but how do I just erase these painful things from my mind and move on? The broken promises of I will be back in a few weeks from work and it changes to months and months. He is a considerate person and hes talked about breaking up with girls. And no one, no matter WHAT is going on, is that busy that they cant take three seconds and send someone a text saying, Been busy, got your message, dont worry, Ill be in touch. Then you cite a failed relationship as an example of how its okay for guys to pull away. I did not answer nor respond last night when he tried contacting me. Also, this really takes a toll on the one being ghosted physically. One month ago, I thought I was in a relationship with a man I would someday call my husband. Like y introduce me to your childhood friends and colleagues and then disappear without a trace after 4 months? Maybe its possible to deal with some people who are a little bit narcissist, but my guy is a real emotional vampire. Your results are completely up to you, your level of awareness, expertise, the action you take and the service you provide to others. Im thinking that there was someone else in the pictureeither someone else he liked and it panned out, or he got back together with an ex. 3: All other scenarios, read 1 or 2 again. And when I would call he never called back or mentioned that I called. You need to LET GO. i feel so sorry about your story, the same situation about to happen with me but Im lucky that he broke communication first. He said he was busy and was going to text me later. Initially I felt he cant just forget how supportive I have been over a petty thing and accept his mistake, apologise (in fact I tried to mend things although it was his fault) I thought our bond was stronger than that. After a while I decided it was safe to give in and give him my number. He said its not what I think. Women seem ready to wear the ring even if they arent actually in love with the guy as a person. Maybe something came upsometimes you never know what is going onIs he active on any other social media?If so, then he is a player and should not get any more of your attentionI would send him a message like Im assuming you are dead right now and your spirit is reading all my textsmay lord have mercy on your selfish rotting womanizing soul lolBut in all seriousness, dont text him ever, dont tweet him, instagram him, whatsapp him, or do anything stupid like reaching out to him ever again, until he contacts you again, believe me it works.block him if you have the strength(I wouldnt be able to but maybe you are stronger)And when he texts you (Which usually happens within the first to second month of NC which you are strictly going to follow but dont hold your breath) dont text him back till 24 hours latermake him sufferand be cool when you reply to him like you could not really care less anymore..Anyway by then you wont really care enough to even reply. I can move on. I went over to his house unannounced to talk to him face to face. So if he throws you a What are you up to this weekend? instead of answering you can toss the response right back to him and say, Why, whats up?. My emails have been hacked by people I had met online, not to get finance info, but to spy on me and read my chat history, so beware! Feminism have destroyed the relations between men and women by allowing men to be equal to women which means they are just pussies. 2: he is the one who said hed be back to help me, so it is his responsibility to be contacting me. I have decided no matter how much the rejection hurts. maybe its time for us to start ghostinggive them something to chat about:). Youd probably just be like, Hey, howve you been?. But now he hardly txts me, tells me what hes doing or is sweet. And I bet youve had so many unnecessary problems with your significant other where you wanted all of his attention to be on you 24/7 and it caused arguments and disagreements. then I stop intiating contact, I stop asking him out, for sure I stop dating him. So they ghost. but then he start keeping his distance as he started new business. I was devastated! I wouldnt say we were boyfriend or girlfriend but he told his mother about me and his best friend and told his stepdad that he was happy. 3 Months is a lot of time and there should be at least a modicum of trust and comfort built up by then. Ppl pointed things out to me that I didnt even realize I was doing. Its been 3 months and he is a no-show. We dated heavily within the month, 12 dates to be exact. Only delete him if he told you to, or else his sloppy texts to you could be fun. Since that time he emailed once in a while, we both traveled a lot, sometimes every few months, sometimes, every few years, asking how I am, where I live, what Im doing..I sometimes replied briefly, sometimes didnt reply at all. Of course, and I am sure I will. Im not doing that just because I dont want to die alone, when I like someone I really want to be worthy to be with her, but I know that at some point Ill run out of my reserve, and it might be really painful to discover she doesnt like me anymore when that happens. I took a long hard look at him and saw him for what he really was and realized I wanted to let him go, that his attitude toward me was undesirable, and that I really couldnt even like him anymore. Absolutely call the person on it. Ill never understand that. We had an agreement from the start of the relationship that if either one of us decided that we didnt want to see one another, that we would tell that person. It will get better! He kept smiling at me and so We saw each other once or twice a week. By allowing an easy exit to such people, we are forcing ourselves to tolerate bullshit, when we completely deserve an explanation. Its obvious that theres an underlying reason that explains this behavior. Blogs like these are the best and help me get through my rough times! I reached out to him twice, but no reaction. by midnight im totally exhausted, i feel uncomfortable in her presence. Been dating for a few months, everything is fine, but roughly 3wks ago it was like a switch flicked and he changed overnight. Do you know what to do to get things back on track? I have blocked him from all social media just so I dont check up on him. Is he happy with his ex? Me later. Nobody likes to be ghosted. 10. However, the older I got I started to think about it more and realised that if we (women) do not just contact them after they ghost us Yes, we do preserve our dignity BUT we continue to allow this behaviour to happen!!!!! From that text, he hasnt said anything back and its been about a week. it took a while to get myself back after that first disappearance but i did. He might have been looking for a big reward(sex) for minimal investment. That helps nothing. Run, sweetie, run!!!! What we shared in time spent was worth more to me than materialistic things. Guys love ex sex because its easier than taking on someone new. Im soooo sorry. Look upon this as he senses you need more space and so hes creating this until you show you want to close the gap. Why kiss me passionately goodbye. They are wounded souls in male bodies, with ego and cocks that sometimes confuse them and make them say things that they really cannot fulfill. You need to be met with the same openness, and not just disappear, making the relationship short-lived. Lol Ive tried looking up new restaursnts, walks to the park I just dont know what direction to go towards, what does it mean when a guy asks you to make it interstitial again? I ask why he vanished, he said he didnt. I felt it was more mutual, even though I wouldnt have mind continuing to date him because I really liked him, but I was fine either way. Yes, men and women are different, but some things remain the same. I had one who wanted me to be his angel while HE pinned over his ex of 4 months. He said he is use to women walking away when he gets like this so maybe he is expecting the same from me, I dont know. INTEGRITY IS NOT ALWAYS THE COMFORTABLE CHOICE, BUT ITS THE RIGHT CHOICE. My lifes a mess too LOL But we just get to a point where enough is enough, And believe me its took me too long to get to that point. Whats done is done and now you need to live in the present. My online boyfriend of 15 months asked for a 4-6 week break after a few misunderstandings and perhaps my neediness issues.We are both in our 40s, it was a loving long distance relationship, and we have met about 4 months ago, which was fantastic, we got on as well as we always did through phone, email and video..After I received the email stating he was sorry, but needed this time, as he couldnt deal with this while dealing with problems at work (he also told me how much he loved me) I waited a week to reply, so I wouldnt be too emotional in my reply. And other social interaction. I signed off until then. We lived long distance but we would tango and oovoo each other every now and then. I never even heard of this 10 years ago. As much as Im hurt and sad.the next time I see him, Im gonna tell him to play his games elsewhere..life is to short and I dont have the time. Cause it just aint working out, Im sorry it just aint gonna work out The next is silent treatments and ignoring texts. We always got along. The mystery behind his reasons for his disappearance is what keeps your mind tired. He got me to see myself more positively. Make sure that you give a day or two's break. I waited a week, hoping hed bring it up (he didnt). I am a vivacious, outgoing girl. Within 3 months he told me he was in love with me. I got too attached too quickly, demanded too much, and when he didnt deliver, I broke it off. On top of the rest, he has no intention to get married. I have not contacted him since, nor him me. I got in his bed fully clothed in pajamas, he tried to take it further than making out, I respectfully declined. Lola, if you are certain ALL you want is someone to **** then by all means, call the guy up and tell him so. Anyone?? After 5 yeasrs he still wants me to find a better richer dude, with money, and no kids, and retired, like me. I am mirroring his action. Im going through this with a guy and its so not fair that he pushes me away because I WANT TO BE THERE. Dont waste time with jaded serial daters, theyre a dime a dozen. He had been acting flakely all week so I told him that it was over, and that I couldnt handle it. Trying very hard not to text him and tell him off and guess it didnt work out glad we met. But the bottom line is he told you point blank he is not ready to offer you anything so you need to fall back. I have never judged him for anything, I just enjoyed being with him and I love him. Nevertheless, he knows that hell never commit to you, as youre not what hes looking for. I see all these new comments about guys ghosting on women. And usually what I do is pull back and give them a dose of their own medicine. Then poof they vanish into thin air.These are men in their late forties and fifties so it never changes. Geraldine N. This also happened to me but its nice to know I am not the only one. Do they really come back? The truth is .. They think I am at least 10 years younger because I dont look my age. Because I dont think I should, I think you shouldnt talk to him. If youre actively dating in todays day and age, chances are youve had the experience of a guy youve been talking to going radio silent only for him to pop back up and begin texting you a few weeks later. He refused to delete his ex from his FB page. Thats the rub and why its so painful and unfortunate. My friend also told me that he saw him in a bar having a good time with his friends. My instincts strongly tell me its the same guy I met on Tinder. I dont think you did anything wrong by texting him asking WHEN the date was going to happen. When he disappears, he's telling you he's one or all of the following: He's not mature. Where exactly do I start ..cause I am soooo hurt to the point of anger!lol When this happens our first reaction is to want to know why. If thats the case, keep your tone light, polite, and kind, while also calling out on his behavior that you find inexcusable. I dont know if he wants me to leave him alone or what? This is not my mother tongue I hope you understand the whole text. And trust me, thats something his possessive mind cant accept. Its because he was horny and forgot to jack-off. I was pretty insecure and he knew that but he was he one having nightmares at night that id leave him. We ended up falling in love and spending plenty of time together. my theory is that creating friendships first is ALWAYS the way to go- you build trust you explore mutual interests, and if there is attraction it can get steamy romantic and it happens to be someone you actually like. When he thinks he is not good enough for you. I didnt want to involve my family or friends just as yet. I was very surpriced and a bit confused. It sounds so similar to mine! If he succeeds at convincing you that hes your best chance as no other guy would ever love you, then hell secure himself a place next to you. The second time was a year later due to a misunderstanding. About two months ago I met a young guy from an online dating site. So quickly. Im pretty confident he will be back and then you can tell him youre not into games.see ya. The next week everything was the same the same amount of talking and interest. I think a new red flag should be if a man tells you something like Im a straight up guy, RUN FOR THE HILLS, because a guy who has to tell you this is not a straight up guy (even if he genuinely thinks he is, he isnt!!! It happened to me a month ago! So that was sunday night, I did not hear from him at all even online. You just have to come to terms on your own, that they just arent that into you. Therefore, if youd like to keep talking to him and develop a healthy relationship, you should address problems and lay out your conditions and expectations, and he should do the same. He also stated to me several times that I deserved something so much better than him and that he wasnt relationship material.Then until a month and half ago. Anyways, he lived on the other side of the countrysent me flowers and rosses in valentines day and all that crap that girls Dream But he was making plans to go for a trip the other weekend (But never mentioned that we are gonna celebrate my birthday). He said talking about the children etc. But were allowed to make reasonable assumptions for the sake of minds! What did you end up doing? Even if hes scared she may find out, he could call me from a work phone or someone elses phone. you know in your heart when its wrong- and women have huge hearts! I trust my intuition. I will never in my life talk to a person like that again. well done. Most people dont like when you do that, especially a guy who is used to you giving him attention as if he is a movie star. Dude, stop chasing this guy. Let the ball be in his court. He just dissAppeared. 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